The Halo Effect...

You are walking down the street and you spot a nice, good looking girl with a decent and polite smile walk by, and you think to yourself, "This is the kindda girl that I wanna marry. She isn't having even a single ounce of malice on her..." . This is called "THE HALO EFFECT". We see someone "seemingly nice" and we associate them to goodness. (and let me assure you, this is a very dangerous assumption).Many a times, when we are with someone (which can be anyone, a friend, a spouse etc) we do stuff that we know isn't right, but we continue doing it just for the thrill and excitment it provide. And after its done, many times what follows is the shame of doing it. Only to end up doing it all over again with the same person... When we were kids these kinds of activitieswere considered normal, but being an adult and knowing that we can't afford this behaviour, we eventually start to thinking that something is wrong with us. But why do we always have to associate this sinister behaviour with us, why not that "other" person...??? After-all its being with them that causes us to go crazy (althought in an exciting and thrilling way). And this whole scenario causes us to think, what is the root cause of this mess ??? and more importantly-Is it us...or them ???